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Welcome To My Relationship Column :)

My name is Samantha, im 19 years young. My blogs are filled with insight and advice on different things but mostly relationships. Why? well.. i've had a lot of people come to me wanting advice and help with their relationships, so i thought i would share my blogs with everyone instead of being selfsh and just helping out my friends. I'm not a psychologist, i don't have a degree in anything but i do have quite the amount of knowledge. All i have is what i know. Don't be afraid to send me questions, and i will post it as a blog :) I cannot garuntee that every question will be answered, so please be patient! advice e-mail: xxmisscupcakes@hotmail.com

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Monday, 09 November 2009

The Big Date

Okay, so you've just met this great person, and they asked you out, or vise versa and its the night before "the big date." Your nervous, of course you are its perfectly natural. You go out, have a great time and end up dating. Great! you couldn't be happier. 5 months later it finally hits you... that was the only date you were ever on. What do you do? Make a date plan! I know what your thinking, is it still called a date even if your dating? or why would we go on a date when..well.. we're already in a relationship. Dates keep the relationship alive. I know, money is tight or maybe you don't have much time to go out every night of the week.. who really does have the money or time no matter what age. You should owe it to your relationship to at least try and go do something with one another at least every couple of months. Why? Well just think about it.. remember when you had your first awesome date with this person? wasn't it exciting, full of laughs, smiles and little touches here and there? Wouldn't it be nice to get that spark again and just have a great time and just take in the beauty of your relationship, especially if your in love? I would hope so. Here's the best idea, pick something that you both will enjoy and make sure you agree on it, and plan a day to do it, maybe its cheap movie night sometime during the week, or your favorite restaurant has a special or buffet on at some point. If you both want to get out and have a night to yourselves, do it! Even trying something new is also a great idea. You need to keep the passion in a relationship especially a long term one.. after 2 months your out of the "honey moon stage" and into some actual work. Great relationships do take work, and you need a relaxing date just to appreciate the time spent and how great it feels to be this far into your relationship and still going strong. So what are you waiting for? snag yourself a great date with that great person.. and enjoy the excitement, laughs, smiles and as much touches as you want.

Sunday, 18 October 2009

Writers Block.

It seems that lately i haven't been able to find anything to write about or how to put in words what i want to actually write down and share. So i've come up with an idea.. send in questions! if you want advice on dating or relationships anything of that nature e-mail your troubles to me and i will do the best i can to make a blog [not mentioning your name at all] but the question asked and my advice to you. This may help with my writers block and it will help you out too. Feel free to e-mail your questions any time :) here's my advice e-mail: xxmisscupcakes@hotmail.com

ill be looking forward to answering your questions the best i can, i love to write and help people as much as i can. I've helped friends so much, i've even kept friends from making big mistakes of breaking up for reasons that just over reacting on both sides. I still get thanked by them.

Soo light up my week! and e-mail away! :)

Monday, 12 October 2009

Thanks.

Thanksgiving, the holiday for eating, eating.. and oh eating! Your all excited weeks before to sit down with family and eat and talk and share good laughs with one another. Then the question comes, "will you have thanksgiving dinner with me and my family?" Eeep. Of course you say yes though. You wan't to spend time with the love of your life of course you do, but no you know that you have to impress their family and be graced with the lovely awkwardness of meeting the family. But if you have done this before you know that the feeling of anxiety and awkwardness will pass and eventually you'll get very comfortable, and if the family likes you, well you'll be just fine and i'm sure you will have a great time. And hey you can always return the favor and ask them to join you with your family dinner, then maybe a couple days later you can share talks about how embarrassed you were at first and how overwhelming the feeling of meeting each others family was and laugh with each other while cuddling. And maybe even sharing some left overs by candlelight? There is nothing like spending the holidays with the ones you love to spend time with, and your little "muffincakeface", or "honeybun", or cuddlebear.. whatever it is you call them. I'll give thanks to that.

Hope your thanksgiving was fulfilling!

Wednesday, 07 October 2009

The Way It Was

Do you ever think back on the first few weeks of your relationship, thinking about how amazing it was, you felt so good, everything was going right, no arguments, you had so much in common, all you wanted to do is just to spend every day with the person that you call yours. Then, months later you start to notice changes. You've been arguing, you start to feel like you are finding more things that you don't have in common than you had in common in the first place. Don't fret just yet. Why? well.. these are normal things. You may feel like your being left out, or your significant other isn't looking at you the same way, or you may even feel like the relationship is dying. This is due to the fact that the comfort level in all relationships start to rise each new week it faces. The more comfortable you are with each other, the more things start to need more work, and less egg shell walking. The egg shell walk is when you are trying your hardest to please the other person and making sure that you don't do anything wrong just yet. Once you get more comfortable, you start to worry less. This may or may not be a bad thing, depending on the other person. If you worry less and keep doing things that the other person does not like and you know it, then your relationship will be all stress, no play. The best thing to do is always make sure you have a good understanding of one another, and what is a big "no no" on each others lists. And always, always.. have compromise. Then your comfort in will be relaxing. When your stepping all over your partners feelings, and know your doing it, and you know what your doing is on the "no no" list, your comfort will be less than relaxing. It will be stressful and irritating. Now tell me what is better, walking all over broken eggshells, or laying on a nice comfortable chez lounge?

Saturday, 26 September 2009

Fevering Bliss.

What is it with girlfriends and wanting to take care of their sick boyfriends all the time? and how come boyfriend become big sucky babies when they are sick? when they can't be near their mother, you are the next best thing. And maybe thats what drives us to take care of them.. our motherly intuition and instincts. Its funny how this works but im sure once you find out your beau is sick all you want to do is feed them soup, tuck them in and put a cold cloth on their head as much as they resist. After a few tries they will just give in. The main reason they resist your help is due to fact that males love to be macho and well.. manly. You know what i mean. Men want to help you, and care for you not the other way around. But they secretly love it when you take care of them and since they resist it almost all of the time, when their sick the weakness comes out and they will give in and love every minute. Once you've done this, i can tell you that when it comes time that the sickness has passed onto to you from all your cute cuddles and kissing, your hunny will return the favour. I hope you like soup!